Geek Girls: We exist. Get over it.
I recently read an article on Frag Dolls,which happens to be one of my favorite geek websites to browse. It’s basically a website about how a bunch of geeky girl gamers, recruited by Ubisoft, take multiplayer shooters to a whole new level. They even compete in special tournaments and have won several awards. They are proof that you don’t have to be a boy to be a geek or a gamer. So you can see how this would appeal to me.
Anyway, going back to the above linked article, I read in Brookelyn’s blog that there are certain items you MUST have to accessorize like a true geek girl. I kicked myself because I have been wanting to write this article for quite some time now but have been putting it off. After reading the article I agreed with most key things, like the DIY projects and the Geek Tees (I myself have a plethora of geeky tees I sport on a weekly basis.) However, I just want to make a couple of things clear here. I don’t think that being a geek girl is a trend. Sure it can be fashionable, but it is more of a lifestyle. It’s the feelings you get from watching your favorite sci-fi tv-show, like Dr. Who or Lost. Or the thrill of enjoying Star Wars for the 254th time. Or that racy feeling you get when you hit Prestige for the 10th time on COD. That’s the lifestyle that I’m talking about. It’s not something you can get from simply wearing clothes. Although… most of the clothes and accessories Brookelyn suggests are uber cute! Just don’t wear it all at once.
I honestly appreciate Frag Dolls and the website tremendously because it brings awareness to the fact that there are girls who live their lives like this every day. But there are some people in this world who don’t believe that at all. And arguably, it can be said that geek girls are rare. But are they?
Ginia Bellafante claims that geek girls are virtually non-existent. Is that an unfair statement? Decide for yourself. In a recent review of HBO’s new TV series Game of Thrones, Bellafante said this:
The true perversion, though, is the sense you get that all of this illicitness has been tossed in as a little something for the ladies, out of a justifiable fear, perhaps, that no woman alive would watch otherwise. While I do not doubt that there are women in the world who read books like Mr. Martin’s, I can honestly say that I have never met a single woman who has stood up in indignation at her book club and refused to read the latest from Lorrie Moore unless everyone agreed to “The Hobbit” first. “Game of Thrones” is boy fiction patronizingly turned out to reach the population’s other half.
So… this took me for a loop when I read it. Having proudly distinguished myself from other girls as a self-proclaimed “super geek freak”, I was completely outraged that someone with so much status, like a New York Times writer, would go as far as to say that geek girls pretty much don’t exist. And if there were women watching Game of Thrones, they were most likely watching it for the sex and the love scenes because GOD forbid there are women out there that actually enjoy a good fantasy story, or “dwarfs, armor, wenches, braids, loincloth(s).” What shocked me more about this statement other than the argument itself, was that fact it was a woman making this claim. And from my understanding, she is a feminist.
Now to be fair, I have not seen one episode of Game of Thrones, nor have I read one book by George R. R. Martin. This is not because I do not care for the genre. On the contrary, I care deeply about anything relating to Science Fiction or Fantasy and have read my fair share of DragonLance, Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, His Dark Materials…etc. In fact, I would choose a Fantasy novel any day over a Romance novel. But this does not just apply to books. The month that Sex and the City 2 came out last year, I was watching Iron Man 2 and Clash of the Titans. As a child, instead of wanting to be a princess for Halloween, I wanted to be Han Solo. What does that say about me? What does that say about Bellafante’s reasoning and argument about what women prefer to read or watch?
I apologize for straying off topic a bit but I felt that with the recent article from Frag Dolls, I had a chance to kind of shine light on just how abundant geek girls really are. We exist. And no one can tell us that we don’t. Just ask Felicia Day, who has nearly 2 million followers on Twitter and has a popular web series called The Guild.
Before, I use to hide when I talked to other girls about movies I wanted to see in the summer. They always wanted to see the latest Mandy Moore flick or whatever teen pop idol was famous at the time and was making movies. Eventually, I realized that I had to just tell them I wanted to see Spider-Man. Why did I have to feel ashamed? The other day on Facebook, I proudly showed off my R2-D2 lunchbox I had bought. Later, a girl in one of my classes admitted to me that it was “really weird” and “looked like a mini-copy machine.” I laughed. Why? Because people like Felicia Day and the Frag Dolls have showed the world that it’s ok to be a geek gamer girl. You don’t have to hide anymore.
But if there are people in the world like Bellafante who think that women only care about love stories and wouldn’t be caught dead watching a TV show or movie that has dwarves or “Braveheart” like elements, that is really disheartening. That’s like completely ignoring an entire group of people. You can’t just shut your eyes and wish them away. I’ve said it before and I will say it again: Geek Girls: We exist. Get over it. /rant off